Ugh Girlfriend Problems, and I'm Married.

[marksiwel]

I am sick of my Best Friends Girlfreind.

I know how cliche.

But

I loathe her.
First Not good looking at all. Like a Bloated Ugly Elaine from Seinfeld

Second, I think he started dating her to make up for me moving away. We spent 24-7 Together and he tried dating some other girl and that ended badly. So a week and a half after I got married and moved away BAM he is dating this girl he used to dislike very much. Then a month later they start having sex and telling each other they love each other? What? I dont buy it, I think he was lonely and Horny.

Third. I tried to like her I really did, but when I met her, she was hostile and bitchy. She would start poltical arguments out of NO WHERE. I would be like "I like Nachos" and this is her "You Bush Supporters hate Mexicans"

Fourth, I mostly talk to my friend through the internet. She has a blog, I have a blog, we read each others and comment now and again.
I made the mistake of leaving a comment on one of her posts about the middle east. I backed up my facts, didnt come off as too preachy, and tried to be lite hearted about it. She responds with (this is a quote)
"well, its obvious that you have never spoken to anyone who has grown up in the middle east. you really have allowed yourself to be mislead by the media. thats sad"
She grew up in goddamn Maryland in the Sticks! She used Jon Stewert in a previous post to prove her "facts".

Discuss

[phit_demon]

You've got 99 problems, and apparently a bitch is one.

[BAMSS04]

First of all, I would say this... Don't debate politics over the internet, unless it is with someone who you are likely to never meet. I mean everything gets misunderstood because there are no vocal inflections to show sarcasm or jest. What may come off as "not preachy" when you read it, may come off as you being a complete asshole when someone else does. I didn't read what you wrote so I could not tell you if this might be the case....

Now, Second of all, If you think the person is a bitch or an asshole, then don't debate anything with them ever. It serves to no purpose except to get your blood pressure up. It is obvious that before this incident you had anomocity towards her and it is obvious that you should just smile an be polite when around her. Don't read her blogs if they are going to inflame you. If she comments on yours, then just delete it.

Next time you see your friend, face to face, not over the phone or internet.... Tell him; "Dude, if your girlfriend flames me one more time for my political beliefs , I am going to tear her a new asshole for you to fuck. You can thank me later." But make sure he understands that if she crosses the line a again, you are likely to tell her off.


Don't do this over the internet. That would not be advisable if you want to keep your friend...as she is the one with her hand on his junk every night. And take it from me, you will lose that battle....badly.

[looking4answers]

..and why do you hate Mexicans? ;)

[Razorback]

Obviously, you are hot for her.

[marksiwel]

Obviously, you are hot for her.
and gay for you

I really do hate that the "you like her" is where alot of people go. Sometimes a Cigar is just a Cigar

[Razorback]

Sometimes a Cigar is just a Cigar

No... a cigar is always a metaphor.

[marksiwel]

No... a cigar is always a metaphor.
Are you coming onto to me?

[Robbo_the_Hood]

Ewww, it's all sticky.

[Razorback]

Ewww, it's all sticky.


You are just jealous.

[dtcb]

I didn't think of the "you like her" angle.....but it is interesting.

I would guess she's just cutting off the competition for her boyfriend's attention.

You are also an influence into lines of thought that conflict with her own (ie....the enemy!). And, after all, she is trying to shape and mold your buddy to her ideal guy. Has she started to 'dress him up'? Maybe, when she's done, she will be bored with the finished product and dump him? You can rummage through the bitter and broken remains for buddy fragments.

This has happened/is happening to a few of my friends back home. One in a current marriage situation unfortunately (it's going to cost him)!

I wonder if she likes you???? Maybe this is her own defense mechanism to push you away while being drawn in at the same time?

Women are complicated. Mongo head hurt.

[Dave]

it's funny. I've dealt with this same situation twice. Both times great guys settled for unattractive, unappealing women who none of thier friends liked. These girls actively isolated thier men, shutting them off from their friends and eventually married them. I talk with these guys only thru email, never on the phone because i don't want to talk to the wife if she picks up.

I want you to know there is nothing you can do about it. Don't try to break them up, the guys will stick up for their girls and will resent you for interferring with "the love of their life!" Sit back, avoid the ladies if you can, don't engage them in conversation that will spiral into some kind bullshit discussion. Prepare yourself for the upcoming marriage.

[marksiwel]

it's funny. I've dealt with this same situation twice. Both times great guys settled for unattractive, unappealing women who none of thier friends liked. These girls actively isolated thier men, shutting them off from their friends and eventually married them. I talk with these guys only thru email, never on the phone because i don't want to talk to the wife if she picks up.

I want you to know there is nothing you can do about it. Don't try to break them up, the guys will stick up for their girls and will resent you for interferring with "the love of their life!" Sit back, avoid the ladies if you can, don't engage them in conversation that will spiral into some kind bullshit discussion. Prepare yourself for the upcoming marriage.
Plus side, she shut down her blog saying it was because the blog was pretty enough for her. So atleast she cant bug me online now, my friend hasnt said boo about it to me (cause this happened to him once and he knows I'm right)
Not hard to ignore her from 2000 miles away.

I'm going back in town sooner or later and I am refusing to be near her.

[Dave]

Plus side, she shut down her blog saying it was because the blog was pretty enough for her. So atleast she cant bug me online now, my friend hasnt said boo about it to me (cause this happened to him once and he knows I'm right)
Not hard to ignore her from 2000 miles away.

I'm going back in town sooner or later and I am refusing to be near her.


That's the best way to handle it. Go out with your friend when you get to town, don't mention her just have fun with your bud.