I've been thinking

[Droogan_Leader]

..and I think I know exactly who I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with. I'm pretty slow in these matters, and I just decided it after taking a long bath. I think it was one of those moments like on You've Got Mail, when they get stuck in the elevator, and that guy says, "I don't know why I haven't done anything about it yet." I'm not 100% sure, but I think I've gotten up the courage to do something about it. Wish me luck, guys and gals :)

[Threadkiller]

Best of luck dude. That's some exciting and scary-as-hell stuff you got going on. Your homies at the 'shoot got your back on this thing.

[Droogan_Leader]

Thanks a lot, man. I met her about a year ago, and I didn't know what to do then. I think I'm finally allowing myself to believe what I already knew deep down. But, you're right on the mark, bro--it's scary as hell alright. I think one of my biggest fears is that dreaded "C" word.

[Tydyed Bandit]

Cousin? She's your cousin?

[acid_soda]

clowns? NOT CLOWNS! DON'T Send In the clowns!

[Droogan_Leader]

Oooh, you're getting, er.... close. Keep guessing.

[Tydyed Bandit]

I think one of my biggest fears is that dreaded "C" word.

Cubic zyrconia? Don't know if you can afford the ring?

[Droogan_Leader]

Cubic zyrconia? Don't know if you can afford the ring?
Is nothing sacred, YOOOUUUUZZEE!! Seriously, if you keep being so campy, sure, we'll have a good time in the thread, but you might jinx me--did that ever occur to you?

[Tydyed Bandit]

Is nothing sacred, YOOOUUUUZZEE!! Seriously, if you keep being so campy, sure, we'll have a good time in the thread, but you might jinx me--did that ever occur to you?

Heehee. Don't give me ideas!!

[KHoliday]

Cousin? She's your cousin?

ROFLMAO....

Thanks for that one!

[KHoliday]

I think one of my biggest fears is that dreaded "C" word.


Ohhhh...noooo...could it be that our wittle Droogan leader is a wittle scared of commitment?

You know, Steve and I have been married only a few short weeks and have been together over a year. He's my family. He's the one I get to do all the fun stuff with after a long day at work. He's the one I get to hang out with, grill with and eat Cheetos with. He's my best friend and lover and I feel like we have a circle of protection around us. The outside world can keep on spinning, getting confused, cheating, suffering and being narcissistic. We got our own thing going on and we both love the life we have created with each other, which, also, includes my daughter and my daughter's boyfriend.

I've been there before when it wasn't what it was supposed to be. The key is acceptance. I accept Steve for all that he is and all that he is not and vice versa. We appreciate what we have, which makes it even better than it normally would be (probably).

Maybe you didn't want to hear all of this but this is one area where I know what I'm talking about because I have made a GAZILLION mistakes in the past. If you can look her in the eye and not want to change her and vice versa...you've got something great!

By the way, best wishes and good tidings to you and your cousin. I mean, girlfriend.

:)

[Robbo_the_Hood]

I think one of my biggest fears is that dreaded "C" word.Dude, I understand, considering when it comes to relationships, I am the most infantile, self-centered bastard walking the earth. So, if you must take advice from someone, it shouldn't be me. However, this one day at a time approach works really well.

It does get kind of scary when you start thinking about buying washers and dryers for the home or duplex you don't even live in yet.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

I appologize for the nature of this post. It is pre-coffee, and I've been sorting out my relationship as well.

[Matthew]

I'm pretty slow in these matters, and I just decided it after taking a long bath.

Don't you all see, he is talking about himself, and the C word is chaffing.

[Matthew]

It does get kind of scary when you start thinking about buying washers and dryers for the home or duplex

Or trailer, or studio.

[Droogan_Leader]

Dude, I understand, considering when it comes to relationships, I am the most infantile, self-centered bastard walking the earth. So, if you must take advice from someone, it shouldn't be me. However, this one day at a time approach works really well.

Brother, all I can say is I think I understand.. I have been told I'm 'too picky', 'nothing like I claimed to be', etc. ad nauseum, because I have held out. I've always felt, not that "I could do better", but that so-and-so wasn't really right for me--something that karma expressed beautifully the last time I touched on this question of "How do you know the right one?" I still wonder, but after a LONG time of questioning myself, my motives, her motives, our chemistry, etc. etc., I keep coming back to the same mysterious conclusion that it's not so mysterious, and that I knew all along, and I may like it or not, but if I let her go, I'll regret it forever and be less fulfilled in the relationship I end up in. Then again, maybe I'm just really lonely and full of hot air? Actually, I don't think so--I'm just scared shitless that I might be right--and I'm moving down to NC to be at school with her in August, so it's real. I think all of this is some weird existential quandary for me--I am afraid because it symbolizes moving on, which ultimately leads to 2.2 kids, an SUV, a nice little suburban house with shrubberies, and so on. That scares me also.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Thanks--the same to you--it's nice to know I'm in the frying pan with someone even more intelligent, yet equally helpless :)

I appologize for the nature of this post. It is pre-coffee, and I've been sorting out my relationship as well.

Don't--I don't before I've had my first cup ;)

Don't you all see, he is talking about himself, and the C word is chaffing.

You're a sick puppy, my friend--I like it.

[Jason_Brown]

I think one of my biggest fears is that dreaded "C" word.
Well, duh. Women tend to get pretty pissed-off when you use that word. Don't use it. Ever. Just some friendly advice.

[Matt1]

Unless you're British. Then it's just simply charming.

[Droogan_Leader]

Well, duh. Women tend to get pretty pissed-off when you use that word. Don't use it. Ever. Just some friendly advice.

Thanks, although I'm trying to forget I mentioned it!

Unless you're British. Then it's just simply charming.

Pip, Pip, ahh, crap, I'm not British.

[Azraelle]

Okay. I met my boyfriend at the airport after a year of talking online. Most of that year was spent being friends. It kind of snowballed into something else, until, finally he said we HAD to meet. Mind you, he lives in Oregon and I live in Guatemala. Anyway, I picked him up at the airport and the second he walked out that door and kissed me I knew he was the One (not like in the Matrix, sillies). Oh yeah, he's moving here in like a month. When you know, you know, I guess.

[acid_soda]

wow, you live in guatemala? that's SWEET!

**acid starts whining after realizing how stale candyland got after a day of being left out**

And by the way, congratulations, man.

[By-tor]

Droog, I don't think you can ever be sure if you've found "the one". Hell, my parents were married 35yrs. My mom went nuts and decided she wanted a "change". After 35 fucking years :confused:. Then a couple years later she thinks she might have been a bit hasty. Tough shit my dad had already remarried. Fucked up. But on a good note, I met my wife in 7th grade. We didn't start dating til our junior year. Turn around and we just had our 24th anniversary last month. She has put up with my ass for a damn long time and I love her dearly for it. If not for her, I'd ended up dead in a ditch years ago. Anywho, I hope your luck will be as good as mine. Life is way too short to spend it alone. That's my two cents for what it's worth. Good luck, man.

[KHoliday]

By-tor...so sorry to hear about your parents. The grass ain't greener and it's all gotta be mowed...there's just no getting around it.

However, congratulations on 24 years! Bravo! So, come on...out with it...I'd like a quarter's worth of your philosophy, if you don't mind. What's your secret to having a successful relationship (and be very honest)? I'd love to hear your significant other's answers, too!

[By-tor]

What's your secret to having a successful relationship (and be very honest)?
We're almost like the same person in many ways. Both graduated pretty close to the top in high school. Both have the same sense of humor. Both like the same types of music. But I think the most important thing is that neither of us ever want to see the other hurt. And believe me, words can hurt way more than a stick in the eye. You've got to have respect for your mate's feelings. Always. Even if it's something trivial(like helping around the house, which I've finally learned to do, or been trained to do). All of our friends are somewhat envious of our relationship, which I can't understand. Simply put, treat your spouse(or significant other) the way you would want to be treated in all situations. It's not rocket science. Just common sense. By the way, what station do you work for. I dearly miss the Eagle. Oh, and sorry about the rambling on. :o

[KHoliday]

Bytor, you nailed it! When I was younger, I was such a selfish imp. But you grow up and NOW I live your advice like a commandment in my own life. Besides, if you don't have those things for your significant other; respect, consideration, do unto others....then what's the point in getting married or being with someone to begin with because without those simple things, the relationship is doomed.

I'm in Texarkana, about 2 1/2 hours away from Dallas and work for Community Radio, Inc. Before they bought our cluster of stations, Petracom had them and ran them in the ground...and I mean BAD. The new management has sunk some major money into these stations to get them turned around so, a little more than a month ago, Steve (my hub) and I were hired on to take over the roles of Him: OM/PD, Me: Promotions Director & Head Copywriter along with an on-air shift (he does mornings on the Pig and I do mid-days on KOOL). The station is getting remodeled top to bottom and we're getting brand new Scott studios the first week of August.

It's been a tough one getting started amongst all the changes but we're hanging in there and looking forward to implementing our individual plans to make these stations even more successful. Actually, the Pig just flipped formats in January so it will be great building it up and watching it grow.

Again, sorry to write a novel but that's just the way I am. Sorry to ramble on and on.

And on.

:P

[jjcourtright]

Droog, I don't think you can ever be sure if you've found "the one". Hell, my parents were married 35yrs. My mom went nuts and decided she wanted a "change". After 35 fucking years :confused:. Then a couple years later she thinks she might have been a bit hasty. Tough shit my dad had already remarried. Fucked up. But on a good note, I met my wife in 7th grade. We didn't start dating til our junior year. Turn around and we just had our 24th anniversary last month. She has put up with my ass for a damn long time and I love her dearly for it. If not for her, I'd ended up dead in a ditch years ago. Anywho, I hope your luck will be as good as mine. Life is way too short to spend it alone. That's my two cents for what it's worth. Good luck, man. Are you me, but older? My parents have been at it for 29 years, and my mom recently went nuts and decided she wanted a "change." Luckily, I talked her in to going to a psychiatrist. She has some things that she definitely needs to get straight with her before she tries to get them straight in her marriage. Me and the wife have almost the exact same story, too. We met in 7th grade. Didn't start dating til freshman year of college. We only just passed our 5th anniversary, though.

I think all of this is some weird existential quandary for me--I am afraid because it symbolizes moving on, which ultimately leads to 2.2 kids, an SUV, a nice little suburban house with shrubberies, and so on. That scares me also. No reason to be scared. I have 2 kids, an SUV, a nice suburban house with shrubberies...and it's all good. I haven't had to give up my identity. As near as I can tell, I still have my balls. Settling down doesn't change you, it just gives you someone to be you with.

[By-tor]

Are you me, but older?
No reason to be scared... Settling down doesn't change you, it just gives you someone to be you with.
The similarities are definitely there. And the last sentence, if you find the right person, is right on the money.

[Psyche]

You've been thinking? Oh dear god..save us all!

jk <3

good luck and I'm glad you've found your 'one'

[Omaru]

For more information on this subject, I refer you to my previous post in dress sexy's thread regarding lack of commitment.

[Zens7s]

..and I think I know exactly who I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with. I'm pretty slow in these matters, and I just decided it after taking a long bath. I think it was one of those moments like on You've Got Mail, when they get stuck in the elevator, and that guy says, "I don't know why I haven't done anything about it yet." I'm not 100% sure, but I think I've gotten up the courage to do something about it. Wish me luck, guys and gals :)
I wish you all the best Droog...you know you are one of my favorite people, and you always deserve the best.

I have not ever been one to believe in "The One", but my opinion is changing. My parents were happily married for 25 years before my dad passed. My mother swears they had a nightmare of a courtship...always breaking up, getting scared, seeing other people (not cheating, but during the split), etc.

She says she sat down at an Italian restaurant one night and was the only single girl. She decided right there that she wanted to get married, left dinner, found my dad at the bar, and told him it was time. They married 4 months later. Was he the one? Their 30th anniversary would have been July 3rd. She says "I have been married to the right one for 30 years. He only made it 25. Quitter" :0)

I, on the other hand, dated and married the guy that virtually everyone thought would last forever. It was a disaster. In the years before I never had that epiphany...the moment where you would run in the rain for miles chasing down that person, and praying they won't ever leave. I ALWAYS saw the door to leave. Maybe you have reached the point where you just don't see the door anymore.

Good luck, and if it all goes wrong at least you tried. Never be casual with your heart, but make sure you take it out for a good test run often.

[Droogan_Leader]

I wish you all the best Droog...you know you are one of my favorite people, and you always deserve the best.

I have not ever been one to believe in "The One", but my opinion is changing. My parents were happily married for 25 years before my dad passed. My mother swears they had a nightmare of a courtship...always breaking up, getting scared, seeing other people (not cheating, but during the split), etc.

She says she sat down at an Italian restaurant one night and was the only single girl. She decided right there that she wanted to get married, left dinner, found my dad at the bar, and told him it was time. They married 4 months later. Was he the one? Their 30th anniversary would have been July 3rd. She says "I have been married to the right one for 30 years. He only made it 25. Quitter" :0)

I, on the other hand, dated and married the guy that virtually everyone thought would last forever. It was a disaster. In the years before I never had that epiphany...the moment where you would run in the rain for miles chasing down that person, and praying they won't ever leave. I ALWAYS saw the door to leave. Maybe you have reached the point where you just don't see the door anymore.

Good luck, and if it all goes wrong at least you tried. Never be casual with your heart, but make sure you take it out for a good test run often.
Zen, et. al. my beloved sweet folk on here, thanks for your well wishes and good vibes. It means a whole lot.

I'm not 100% that I can truly know before I take 'the plunge' that she is the perfect one, but I think it's as close as I've ever felt or ever will--as the Oracle said in the Matrix, "from balls to bones." It's something that really feels weird/good that I can't look past. Is it gas? Is it the pork chops from yesterday at the Sizzler coming back on me? Is it my optimistic naive idealism? Crap, who cares. I'm going to give it a shot and throw caution to the wind. If/when it does work out, I want to share the splendor with you all, being as special as you are to moi :) Thanks again!