Wine and Cheese Party`

[Zens_7s]

So I think I may have had the worst day/night of my whole life today.

I finish my last meeting today and get a call. Granted, I passed through two mergers unscathed...

I am informed that we have been purchased for the last time by a company that owns an IT consulting service that does what my dept. does. So I get fired, and I have to spend 4+ hours firing people who work for me. Even better, I get to fire the guy who has 15 years in the company and two kids in college.

So what does a damn respectable chick do when she loses her job? OF COURSE she goes out and gets drunk. So when she goes out and gets drunk who does she run into? Her now-ex-boyfriend. Yes, the very same one that she actually loved and spent the last year with. NEAT! Let’s make matters [censored] worse!

Somebody seriously sign me up for a free session because this is just about the max of my frustration. I have been to three funerals this month, lost my boyfriend, got mergered, lost my benefits, cancelled my European vacation with the boyfriend, and got bent over without the courtesy of a reach around. Anybody got something to beat me with? Cause that is all that is left. /forums/images/icons/crazy.gif

[ozchick]

/forums/images/icons/shocked.gif Geez thats beyond crappy. I wish I had words of comfort for you but I'm coming up blank. I think what you need to do is spend all your savings on a trip down here!

The only way is up my friend.

[JK]

I could blow sunshine up your ass and say something like "when God closes one door, blah blah blah" but whenever someone tells me that I want to take 'em into a small locked room with a pair of pliers and some duct tape and show 'em a real good time. All I can say is that sucks... hard. I hope everything, or at least something, will go alright for you.

In the meantime...

[TLS]

Wow Zens, that does suck. Sounds like you could use a vacation away from it all. I do hope things get better for you.

[karmattack]

Wow, I don't know what to say. That's the kind of bad day you see someone have in a movie and scoff like it would never happen in real life. I'm so sorry, Sweetness. You deserve better than that.

At the very least, you can look forward to later this month and to some straight forward, unbridled.....then bridled debauchery. I will buy you shots and pretend not to notice when you grab my hiney. Deal?

[FanGirl]

Yes, yes, no worries in 30 days you will be here. We will have ginormic amounts of fun and you will forget all about your job and ex. Oh, oh and maybe you can find work here and we can play more often!!!! Yes, that is the new plan. I'm going to need a roommate in July. There's tons of work here. Done and Done. See? All better.

[Dave]

woof, that sucks, i hope they at least gave you a good wad of cash on the way out the door.

[ILovePapaSmurf]

<font color="purple">I'm sorry Zens. Why not plan a trip to Disneyland? I heard there are some quality railroad men we can hit on. Why not, it is a 'small world.'

Ha, I kill myself.

I hope things get better hun! Just stay positive. Everything will work out for the best. /forums/images/icons/laugh.gif</font color>

[Razorback]

Damn, Zens... I can honestly say I know exacly how you feel. /forums/images/icons/frown.gif Our destinies may have been mixed together somehow.

Things get better after they get so much worse. I hope.

[Denyse]

Yeah...What Fangirl said...
And in addition to that, I've already lined up some single men for you at the wedding, and there will be an open bar, too...
I think you should move here! I'll even help you pack!

[BAMSS04]

This happened to me last year. The first time I ever got fired was last year. I never had to fire a guy with two kids in college. None the less, I think I know how you feel, so words of advise. Get the hell out of town, go see fangirl and smurfy denyse and efexeye, find a job in California and I'll be there soon. Then we can all go get drunk together and soon you'll forget all about Texas and the Ex(To which I can honestly say I know exactly what you feel like there). Sounds good yes? Just do it. Eye of the Tiger. Go for it, connect four. Silly Rabbit, Trix aren't just for kids. One small step for woman, and one giant leap for woman-kind. You can do it.

[marksiwel]

I could get you a job washing dogs.

[Robbo_the_Hood]

I just got back from a funeral, and I thought my day was crappy.

But just for you, Zens, (the Blonde Blogger, the Belle of the Boards, the Poopshoot Princess) Dr. Robbo--Lung Specialist is coming out of retirement for one night only. Give me a patient, and they shall be lungless courtesy of Dr. Robbo.

[ratm1966]

Wow! That blows chunks, and I am not talking about Chunks the cat either.

I sure hope things get a lot better for you.

If you are driving when you go to California, you oughta stop on by here or something.

[Matthew]

Without all the cliches that most people will give in this time, all I can say is there is a big picture for your life. The reason things fall to shit in a heartbeat are several, sometimes testing of character, sometimes to see how we handle these things. See, this is only a portion of your life, and of eternity. Tomorrow these will pass, and you will look back and remember it, perhaps with bitterness, perhaps with sarcasm. Either way, I know you from here a little, and all I can say is that you have the gusto, drive (not to mention the cans ARRRGH) to succeed in life! You can and will make a difference.

This is not an end, this is a beginning!

Take care my friend!

[Matt1]

Zen, regardless of how shitty things might be, you still kick ass. Don't lose sight of that.

[cberquist]

Wow. Talk about a big shit sandwich. At least you get the honor of making me feel better about my own problems /forums/images/icons/smile.gif

[Mighty_Wingman]

One of the last things my grandfather said to me was " Don't sweat the little shit ... because YOU ARE a little shit ." He'd been in the hospital for two months following his second heart attack. He was hooked up to .. I don't know how many different machines? His breathing strained , his voice raspy and he was in between vomiting attacks. I couldn't deal with seeing him like that and I refused to see him like that again, he called for my prescence and I wouldn't give it. That I was such a chickenshit, haunts me. His death hurt less than how I reacted to it. He died about a month later on the same week when my girlfriend of three months dumped me (3 months is a long time when you're 15) and some farmer gut-shot my dog of nine years - probably because she was chasing his cattle, she took two weeks to die. All this shit built up, culminated, in five days time I lost my grandfather , my dog, my girlfriend, my temporary sanity.

" When troubles come , they come not as single spies, but in batallions. " Chavez Y Chavez - Young Guns

Don't take any of this the wrong way, not trying take the spotlight or anything. I just don't feel like starting another thread for depressing shit.

I had a dream on Tuesday night that my oldest niece, Nikki, tried out some new cosmetic products and had a serious allergic reaction to them, and my Mom slipped and fell, and something stabbed her in the head. There were a couple other details, but they were foggier like me driving to some faraway Hospital in the middle of the night. I felt like I should call them , but it seemed superstitious and silly , so I didn't.

On Wednesday morning my niece , on her way to work got her car t-boned by an SUV, car's totalled, she walked away with bumps and bruises, superficial injuries... cosmetics are superficial.

On Thursday night around 9 my sister calls. Mom's had a stroke. She's been Care-flighted to ETMC, Tyler. "It's serious" she says " you should hurry." It's a five hour drive.

Over the course of my life. I've lost too many people with too many things left unsaid. I've taken special precautions to make sure that wouldn't happen with Mom. The sorrys, the gratitudes, the bit about getting her a cape for Mothers' Day because SHE IS THE "Super Mom". And for five hours on the dark Texas highways I've got nothing else to think about. On the way up I phoned the hospital and eventually got hold of her nurse, he tells me her brain is hemmoraging she's unconcious and her left side is not functioning, but she's "stable".

I got pulled over twice on the way up because my liscence plate light was out , the second time by a state trooper about ten minutes from Tyler. The first officer to stop me looked at my liscence and insurance and after hearing my story sent me quickly on my way. State troopers, on the other hand, have to maintain their reputations as [censored] Pricks so he ran my liscense and had me sit there twenty minutes while he gave me a written warning. How much difference does twenty minutes make ? I wonder.

It's 3am when I get to the hospital I realize it's the same hospital my granfather died in. When I get to Moms room I realize by unluck or coincidence or Gods sick [censored] sense of humor, that it's the same Goddamn room I last saw my grandfather alive in. Mom's unconscious, she looks terrible, but I refuse to be chickenshit about this. My sister's supposed to be here but I don't see her.

I don't stop to ask the nurse taking notes just outside her room if it's okay to go in, or how long I can stay . I don't care. I stroke the grey-white hair on her head and I ask her if she can wake up for me. I want her to wake up. I want her to be happy to see me. I want to tell her boy is here and she gave me quite a scare and all this is going to be okay, and she doesn't need to worry about anything, she's going to be home in couple days. But she doesn't wake up, all she can manage is a couple of sad sleepy noises and I can't finish this. I've had about ten hours sleep since Thursday and most of that was on waiting room furniture.

I'm going to be out of it for awhile , I hope to see you all on the other side.

[jjcourtright]

Hope your return brings with it good news.

[FanGirl]

Please let us know her status and if there is anything I can do. I'm sending best wishes and mental hugs from here. I'll have your mom added to the Sister's prayer list. Not even sure what else to say.

*********************HUG************************** ********

[RobinHoodDaffy]

I have lost so many people the last few years. Seven family members in the last five years. The latest being my girlfriend's Grandfather just two days ago. I know that no two people will respond to this kind of situation the same, but I just wanted to say that there are others out here who can at least identify with your pain, and are wishing for better things for you.

[Denyse]

Crossing fingers and toes and anything else that crosses without breaking, that everything is OK real soon...Call on us if you needed ANYTHING!!!

[JK]

My prayers are with you and your mom.

[Dave]

I'll keep you in my prayers, i hope everything goes well.

[TLS]

Yes, they do come in batallions.
I'm sorry for your unhappiness and I wish good things for you. I think it's the hardest when a family member gets sick. Sometimes it takes longer to sink in and when it does it hurts. Just don't beat yourself up over it, everyone gets into accidents and everyone gets sick. Dreams don't always come true. In fact none of mine ever do, and for that I am truely greatful for I'd have died 100 deaths by now. Anyway, I don't think I'm helping much, but I think I speak for everyone when I say, we're all here for you if you need us.
Also I'm kinda worried/wondering what you mean by
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I'm going to be out of it for awhile , I hope to see you all on the other side.


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The other side? /forums/images/icons/frown.gif
I took it three different ways and it better not mean one of them.

[Omaru]

Be gone as long as you need, we'll be here when you get back, I hope it all turns fine.

[ozchick]

All the best MW. Sending you best wishes from this side of the world. Let us know how it goes.

[karmattack]

For lack of better words, you know we all care about you, broseph. Please let us know what happens and in the meantime, I'll be praying that your troubled times are highlighted with blessings.

[Mighty_Wingman]

First off , I'd like to thank you all for your responses 'specially Fanny. It really DOES HELP to know people care.

I owe you all.

"The Good"
Mom got out of the hospital today, baffling Doctors, Nurses, and family with her speedy (physical at least) recovery. She's on a walker and she has to rest OFTEN, but that's better than anyone expected. I can't help being grateful.

"The Bad"
Mom's not quite herself, communication is frustrating, like trying to talk to a five-year-old. Some things get through , some things don't. A decade ago it would've been fair to call her "forgetful". That's a huge understatement at this point. There are also some respiratory problems so this could still go either way.

"The Ugly"
The Shitstorm Continues ... On Tuesday, I got to work an hour and a half late , slipped and turned my knee the wrong way (like sideways), there was a loud popping noise. I've got a bit of a limp and some pain when I walk. I recently cancelled my insurance to save some $ . Seemed like a good decision at the time.
The plan was to return to northeast Tx.Thursday night and help settle some of Moms affairs. She owes back taxes on her house and since she can't remember what day it is( or year for that matter), she needs care. She needs help budgeting her SS money, paying bills, getting around etc.
My truck "The Falcon" needs repairs, after all the miles over the weekend, it's leaking coolant and the alignment is seriously out. So, I take it to the shop after work today to get an estimate. When my mechanic trys to put it in the garage to get a look at it, it wont even start. The repairs I wanted are $980.00 . The repair I didn't even need until I pulled up $300.00 .

I guess it's lucky I don't have a girlfriend right now , she'd be screwing my boss and stealing my furniture. I don't even want to walk out of the door in the morning for fear the Goddamn sky is gonna fall on me. I guess the only thing to do now is hide in the corner with a bottle of Mad Dog and blame the government.

Life goes on...

Thanks again for putting me in your thoughts and/or prayers.
Muchos Gracious.

M.W.

[FanGirl]

You poor dear. Well, try (and I said try) to look at it this way. You must be getting some monster good coming into your life for all this crap you are going through.

A trust fund baby model/chef/mechanic with a hobby in plumbing, whose twin sister is a Doctor, will bump into you at the store and fall madly in love with you. Taking care of all your needs in every way possible.

[ozchick]

Your mum's out of hospital so thats awesome. My grandmother had a major stroke about 15 years ago and lost the use of her right side. Then a couple of years ago had another mini one where she couldn't remember how to speak english anymore. Everytime I visited her she would converse in Italian (which I don't speak and can only understand a few words) so I just kept harrassing her to speak English or I'd ship her back to Italy! She's right as rain again now (well as much as an old person can be!) but it was hella stressful so I fully understand what you're going through.

The shitstorm is an effect of El Nino or polar ice caps melting or something and this too shall pass.

Good Luck my friend.

[BAMSS04]

Thats good news man. I am so very very happy for you. All my best to your mom.

Listen , I'm not going to you a " Keep on truckin " or a " That which does not kill us..." even though they both apply. Just know that your not the first person to have a string of bad luck and you won't be the last. Most all of us have been there before and are right here helping you.

It reminds me of the footprints in the sand. Remember, we're carrying you. We're carrying you.... And smurfy too. ( I told her to where tennis shoes but she wanted to look sexy while carrying someone)also Zens is gonna join you cause she's in no mood to carry anyone. Ok Is that everyone?

Oh and Keep on truckin. Remember that which does not kill us.. /forums/images/icons/grin.gif

[ILovePapaSmurf]

<font color="purple">Alright, after a shitty ass week at work, things felt like they were going up. That wasn't the case last night.

Around 8 or so, I was sitting on the computer while waiting for my brother to get out of the bathroom to finish watching the third Harry Potter that I haven't seen. So, he comes out and we are watching the movie and all of a sudden we hear a loud boom! My mom shouts, 'Go check and see if my car is ok.' So we do and I run back in and tell her her car is fine. So, my brother and I go outside to look and see what happened in case someone needed the cops to call, so I'm looking for my car. I looked at my brother and go, "Dude, where's my car?" My brother replies, "I don't know dude, where's your car?" So, we walk across the street of my house and I look and shout, "They hit my [censored] CAR!" I run back in and tell my mom, I'm grabbing all my insuance information and everything to give to the lady that hit MY PARKED CAR! I guess what happened was she side-swiped a car and then trying to adjust her car, she hit my car. And where exactly did she hit my car? The trunk. Same as last accident about 2 years ago. She hit my car so hard that her car was inside my trunk. So, she must have been going really fast. I mean, fast, she hit the car so hard that it shattered my back window. So, we take insuance information and stuff like that. So, the two truck comes to take her car, and as they pull her car out of my car, you can see the actual frame of my car. The impact of her hitting my car lifted up the trunk and pushed my car about six feet from the original place it was at. Now I have to wait until Monday to get a rental car, I had plans this weekend to go to a brithday party and hang out with the boy, but that is all shot to shit. I'm like totally stressed man. I think I am going to go watch Bambi to cheer me up. Anywho...

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[JK]

Sorry to hear about your car- the anger and frustration of having that freedom and independence taken away by someone else's actions or just plain old incompetence just plain sucks.

I'd offer more words of encouragement, but my day is sucking as well... nothing in particular, just a general malaise- the sun is up, beautiful skies but I feel like I'm down in a hole. I used to do that when I was kid. I'd dig a hole and just sit in it, like some soldier in his fox hole, just waiting for the bombs to fall. Eventually they would.

Atlanta is starting to feel like a foxhole, and I'm down in it, alone, watching the world go by, knowing in my gut that something horrible is going to happen. But the sun keeps shining, the people keep walking by. The part that really has me down isn't the loneliness and the sense of impending doom- it's the fact that I'm becoming more and more content with just sitting in my hole and waiting for something to happen.

f*cking birthdays...

[marksiwel]

if it makes you feel better I have a 97 Dodge Neon. Also known as "the Rusty Lemon"

[ratm1966]

Well, I know everyone has their problems, but this thread was about Zens. Anyone hear from her after that original post?

[BAMSS04]

I was jst about to mention that. Whats up with Zens. Anyone? Did some some check on her?

[ratm1966]

Oh, I was in a hurry on my last post and didn't have time to edit it. I sure hope I didn't sound cold hearted to anyone or make you feel that your problems mean nothing, I was just trying to check up on Zens. After I posted that and got in my truck, I realized that what I wrote sounded pretty bad.

Again, I apologize in advance.

[TLS]

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f*cking birthdays...

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So, is/was it your birthday? If so, happy birthday. /forums/images/icons/smile.gif
If not, well then yeah, f*cking birthdays... someone ran into my car and totaled it while I was on my way home from picking up a birthday cake. This happened a couple of years ago though. Hit it so hard from the back, it broke the front windshield and pushed me into the car in front of me. Good thing I had a huge speaker box in the back or else I'd have been crushed. Poor poor car. /forums/images/icons/frown.gif

Oh, and yeah, has anyone heard from Zens? ...FanGirl, Karma, Smurfy, anyone?

[FanGirl]

Spoke with her last weekend and this past Saturday. She's doing okay. She's feeling better all the way around (she got the flu the day after she posted this). She's still coming out here for the wedding.

[Razorback]

That is good to hear. Thanks for the update.

[FanGirl]

There will be tons of photos and updates over the wedding weekend starting 2 weeks from Thursday. Zens and Karma both should be bringing their digital cameras. I'll try to get them to upload pics nightly. Although, Thursday night is the bach/bachorette parties so those may not go up to protect the innocent and the guilty. The guilty being underlined.

[Razorback]

We MUST have pictures of the guilty. /forums/images/icons/wink.gif

[jjcourtright]

My 97 Neon failed to start for the first time ever yesterday. After pumping the gas a little bit, it coughed and went back to its yeoman-like existence. I'm thinking it will live forever. And, it isn't missing paint like every other Neon in the world seems to be. Sorry for the good news in the bad news thread, I just have to defend the good name of Neons everywhere...or at least in my garage.

[Denyse]

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There will?????? Why wasn't I informed???
Why must you punish me so...Damned internet...Gets me in trouble every time!

[FanGirl]

You've got me, zens, karma, you, efexeye, alcohol, a party and cameras all mixed in over 4 days and you really expect there to be no photos or stories all over this board? I think you remember what happened the last time these elements combined - let's see what was the end result? Right, the reason we're all getting together again - YOUR WEDDING!